This might be the most decisive book you can find in terms of defining your relationship with your partner, children, parents, siblings and close friends. Jesper Juul reveals with great insight why it is onlypossible to say "Yes!" to yourself when you also feel liberated and freeto say "No!" to others. By letting go of the obligation to be nice and the need to serve and please others, it is easier to connect with your true identity. Jesper Juul reveals the secret to developing and maintaining a healthy mind, social competence as well as staying true to yourself. When reading this practical book you will discover why "No!" is also called "the most loving answer" and therefore is the ultimate gift to yourself and those you hold near and dear.